Why You Should Never Include the Word “No” in Your Online Dating Profile

Crafting the perfect dating profile to attract a potential partner can be challenging. It’s hard to anticipate what the people on the other end of the app will think. Your profile should be unique and reflect your personality, but there are some dating profile don’ts across the board—like using a certain two-letter word. According to dating experts, the one word you should never include in your online dating profile is “no.”The word “no” is probably present on more dating profiles than you’ve realized. It usually appears in the context of phrases like “no players,” “no drama,” or “no hook-ups.”  But including “no” on your profile gives it a pessimistic undertone—even though that’s likely not your intention.

“This is referred to as negative, defensive language,” says online dating consultant Eddie Hernandez. “It suggests the user might be hesitant to give people the benefit of the doubt or at least give people a clean slate to start off a match.” Hernandez suggests replacing this language with more positive framing by focusing on what you do want.

Penning more positive statements that target what you’re actually looking for will more likely attract the right partner for you. Clear, straightforward lines like “casually seeking a committed relationship, eager to connect with those that are seeking a connection with a longterm focus,” are optimal, according to Hernandez.
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