A first date could be the opening of a door to a wonderful relationship and a better life, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t come with its stresses.
Dating can feel awkward, uncomfortable, scary and force us to analyse ourselves and our perceived flaws under a harsh light. Especially if we’re dating after a breakup, divorce or long period of abstinence, those fears can feel even more magnified.
However, it doesn’t have to be like that. Dating can be a fun, exciting and strengthening process if we can overcome the fears that hold us back.
Neil Wilkie is a Relationship Expert, Psychotherapist, author and founder of online couples therapy platform The Relationship Paradigm. If there’s anyone who knows what the majority of us struggle with when it comes to finding love, it’s him.
Here, Neil shares with us the most common dating fears and, crucially, how to overcome them.
12 of the most common dating fears
1.I’m not good enough
This is wonderful self-sabotage. Do you feel you are not good enough to meet someone that likes you, wants to see more of you and maybe even have a loving relationship with you? If so where does that belief come from and how is that helping you in your life right now?..
2.They won’t like me
It is really important to present yourself as the best version of you rather than pretending you are…